How We Used Tea in Our Wedding Ceremony

Because tea is what brought Katie and I together, we thought we’d use it in our wedding ceremony. Let me explain first how tea brought us together because some people seem to think this kind of thing just doesn’t happen. Geoffrey Norman aka “Lazy Literatus” has a “standing ‘scientific’ theory that tea and dating don’t blend.” I asked him what he thought of our relationship and he said that it “seems to exist in stubborn defiance of my theory” and that Katie and I must have “sold our souls to Guan Yin… or something equally plausible.” All joking aside, Katie was working on her masters in gastronomy and while writing her thesis entitled: “A Century of Tea in the United States,” was introduced to me by a fellow tea blogger and asked if she could interview me. The rest is history.

So we decided to use tea in our wedding as our unity symbol. Unity symbols are meant to symbolize the coming together of two families. Popular unity symbols include using two candles (one from each side of the family) to light a single unity candle, and a family member from each side pouring sand into a unity vessel to be displayed in the home of the newlyweds. We chose tea.

We found a beautiful wedding-ish gaiwan and a teacup at Camelia Sinensis in Montreal last fall for the ceremony. Katie’s mother poured leaves into the gaiwan, my mother poured hot water into the gaiwan, then I poured the tea out into the cup and Katie and I shared sips of our “unity symbol.” The best part of our unity symbol is that we purchased 6 pounds of oolong for it. We gave every guest a small jar of tea as a wedding favor and we’re aging the rest. Each year, on our anniversary, we’ll break out our wedding tea-ware and some of our aging oolong and have a little tea sesh! The tea we chose was Organic Mountain Oolong from Mountain Tea, many thanks to Chicco Chou!

Here are some photos from our wedding ceremony taken by the lovely Lauren Rosenau:

The altar decked out with tea-ware
The altar, ready to go with the tea set-up.

Close-up of the altar and the tea ware
Close-up of the tea-ware on the altar.

Tony holding the wedding gaiwan
Holding the wedding gaiwan.

The wedding tea ware
The wedding tea ware.

Wedding Tea
More of the wedding tea-ware.

Tony pouring the wedding tea from the gaiwan
Pouring the tea during the wedding ceremony.

Close-up Tony pouring the wedding tea from the gaiwan
A closer and cooler shot of me pouring the tea during the ceremony.

Tony and Katie getting married
Katie and I getting hitched!

Tony and Katie married
Katie and I hitched!

Tea Wedding Favors
Here’a a shot of our tea wedding favors.


About the Author:

Tony has been studying tea for over ten years and has traveled to many tea producing regions throughout Asia. His book, "Tea: A User's Guide" is available now.


  1. TeaForTeri June 7, 2016 at 8:21 am - Reply

    I love this. My boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend at the tea place that I frequent. I love this!

  2. Paul Saunders July 2, 2015 at 6:16 am - Reply

    Great story and love your blog, I especially like this post as two days my wife and I celebrated our three year wedding anniversary.. she is Chinese and tea has now been a big part of my life for the last ten years but not intentionally. I feel guilty I didn’t appreciate the tea ceremony more at our own wedding in China at the time! but still remember the ritual.

    They seem to rush the process a little now in China when I have been to weddings which is a shame.

    Great photos .. glad I found your blog and congrats on your recent award I can see why 🙂

    A bit like photography for me, it’s been a big part of my life but never formally studied it.. same with tea .. so intend on changing that now as I have so much exposure to it with our travels.


  3. Samantha May 8, 2015 at 3:52 pm - Reply

    Omg, what a nice way to share your pasion with your love ones especially your moms. Regards from Colombia!

  4. Karin C. December 30, 2014 at 1:33 am - Reply

    What a beautiful and thoughtful way to share your passion with your guests during your ceremony. What a natural extension of the two of you!

  5. Jennifer L November 18, 2014 at 11:30 am - Reply

    What a beautiful ceremony! I love the idea of drinking your wedding tea over the years, like frozen wedding cake but with tea. If I left a wedding with a jar of tea, it would definitely be my favorite wedding.

  6. Steph W September 4, 2014 at 2:35 pm - Reply

    Congratulations to you both! A lovely way to add tea into your wedding.

  7. kristi August 20, 2014 at 10:47 am - Reply

    I met my beau at Starbucks, I was ordering a soy chai latte, he was drinking a doppio. So tea was half involved, and opposites attract! He now enjoys when I make iced tea at home, and if it’s a tea-infused cocktail, even better 🙂 Beautiful wedding, beautiful story, beautiful couple–thanks for sharing!

  8. LiGongSF July 30, 2014 at 6:59 am - Reply

    Beautiful, Tony! This is a living modern tea folk lore for North America…I am saving it as a modern tea culture record:-)
    I guess she is from Montreal? I would love to read her thesis.
    Again, happy unity!

  9. Gabriel July 12, 2014 at 5:16 pm - Reply

    Congratulations to both of you on your special wedding day with a truly memorable tea ceremony!

    Happy sipping forever!

  10. Lisa July 10, 2014 at 3:56 am - Reply

    What a wonderful wedding, congrats!

  11. Aredhel July 8, 2014 at 9:10 am - Reply

    wow, very nice 🙂 Congrats to both of you.

  12. lochan July 7, 2014 at 1:10 am - Reply


  13. Morten July 7, 2014 at 12:17 am - Reply

    I love this! What a beautiful story. There is probably nothing more solid and everlasting to build a relationship on, than on tea. It’s a wonderful syllable: The eternal bond of marriage built on the white truthfulness of tea. Best of luck!

    PS: Really don’t know what Geoff is talking about… 🙂

  14. Katrina July 6, 2014 at 9:07 pm - Reply

    What a wonderful story and beautiful pictures. I hadn’t realized that was how you two met. I love the way you paid tribute to tea on your special day.

  15. Elyse Petersen July 6, 2014 at 4:17 pm - Reply

    I love this, it’s beautiful! I hope many others choose this. Also, I will have to have a conversation with Geoff because I have seen many, many beautiful relationships that were brought together by tea.

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